Self Motivation is a Bitch!

I mentioned to someone recently (not really sure who it was) that I was on a deadline for story like yesterday and they instantly said, "What sign are you?" I responded, “I’m a Sagittarius.” They just gave me a look and I said, “Yeah, I know, we’re procrastinators by nature. I know.” Hanging on to the last word of my comment, I felt as if I was accepting being lazy (on the verge of giving up). But if I give up, there would be no point of this blog, THE GRIND and I’d definitely go into hibernation, a true dark place, and just be…But who wants to settle for going through life clueless, lifeless, helpless, and unhappy?

I’ve always wondered, after someone reaches a certain level in their career and is known amongst their industry, what it took for them to get to that place. I’m sure that they had to start some where and prove to themselves that they could make their dreams come true. But, it takes hard work, it takes dedication, it takes thinking smart, and it takes momentum. Honestly, sometimes your thinking can get blurred and you go through humps in your plan that can lead to a detour in the road (the plan). So, how do you get back on track? How do you stay motivated? How do you avoid throwing your hands up and saying, “I give up”?

I think that you got to really look inside yourself and ask yourself and/or tell yourself, “Is this what I really want?” Can I go on? Do I have what it takes to make it?

If the answer is “Yes”, than you stick to your plan
-You may have to modify your plan (if that’s what it takes)
-Write down your goals and plan of action
-Work on completing those goals/list, daily (even if its small task)
-Network
-Utilize your resources
-Promote Yourself, business, idea, product (whatever your dream may be)
-Get a mentor (if possible)
-Always do research and educate yourself (stay aware of fresh news happening in your industry or in the profession that you want to break into)
-Find new ways or ideas that will keep you motivated
-If you have business partners, define each other’s weakness and strengths (preferably in the beginning) so that you are aware of who can execute certain duties directly
-Accept constructive criticism (take it with a grain of salt, especially if it’s an experienced veteran in the industry that you want to go into)
-Never, Never, Never, give up on yourself (you can definitely tweak your plan but if its really want you want to do, than go for it!)

“If you don’t believe in yourself, who will?”

Always,

Miss Joi

No Man Hater Here

A friend defined my blog in three words: “man hater site”. I was slightly offended. Hell, that’s just as bad as someone calling me a BBW-Bitter Black Woman, and I not one of those. Yet, I giggle as I repeat his quote back to myself. I believe that he certainly meant it as enduring since he tried to clean it up after I told him what I am about to tell you.

Let’s clear this up now, just in case you’re confused as well. This blog is not, by any means, not a man hater site. It was created as a tool to show my personal side as far as writing that ranges from my journey headed for entrepreneurship to eating at my favorite Thai food restaurant, Spice (199 8th Ave, btw 19th & 20th st).

I love men, in all flavors. I love everything about them; they way they smell, the way they think, the way they cause me to obsess and write about them. I’ve learned a vast amount of knowledge about myself and life’s experiences through the men that have touched my spirit (good or bad). I’m thankful for those experiences. I will never regret the ride. Therefore, when publish a post talking about any man, it is written to show what I’ve gained from the person and/or situation, not to slander someone’s reputation. That’s also the reason for code names instead of the real thing. Keeping the subject in mind and respecting the privacy of others.

Thank you all for the support and feedback!

Always,

Miss “I’m not a man hater” Joi